At some point you will break. You’ll think you’re a failure. You’ll think you’re not good enough. You’ll question your abilities, your sanity. It happens to all entrepreneurs and people who attempt to do great things.
How you bounce back and get on track will be the true measurement of your success. A set back is a moment in time – a moment that feels like a lifetime. It is not the end. It is not game, set, match. Here are 5 things you should do if you want to rebound from your failure and get back in the game:
- See the moment as a moment rather than the sum of your life. Separate the issues. Don’t spiral into the thought process that one failure is your total failure. Look at the moment for what it is – a moment, a time when things didn’t go your way. Stop moping. Get over it. Stand up. Chin up. You’re not the first person to fail at something. Pull yourself together. Now go and do.
- Identify what you can learn and change. In every failure, there is a lesson. What would you do differently? What would you add, edit, delete? If you don’t find the lesson, regardless how small, you will find yourself there again, and that’s what you’re trying to avoid.
- Ask for help. I get it. Over-achievers think asking for help is admitting defeat. If you think that, you’re wrong. You’re not great at everything. In fact, you should be building your team to enhance your skills and abilities, not to duplicate them. If you were perfect, you wouldn’t have failed. Finding others who can assist you and engaging them by sharing your vision, so they want to be part of it, is the sign of a strong leader.
- Talk to your customers. If you want to know what went wrong, ask your customers. They didn’t buy, and they can tell you why. A process for your team failed miserably? Ask your staff what went wrong. They know. You didn’t get the funding you hoped for? Ask the investors. They saw the red flag. Information is power, and right now, your intended customer knows something you don’t know. Tap that power.
- Try again. You didn’t get here because you’re weak. You didn’t get here because you’re stupid. You didn’t get here because you don’t work hard. So, get up, dust yourself off and get back to work. Sure. Take a minute and give yourself a pity party – JUST a minute. Now, get back to it. I won’t lie. More failures lie ahead. They’ll all just be moments in your journey. So go ahead. Fail, and fail again and fail again…until you succeed. Each failure is shaping you, making you better. If you hang in there, success will come. You just have to want it enough to keep trying.